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		<title>If You&#8217;re Going to Write About North Korea&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2010/10/05/if-youre-going-to-write-about-north-korea/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Oct 2010 01:09:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You shouldn&#8217;t do it like Ethan Epstein, who I can only hope is not a regular contributor to Slate. He wrote &#8220;Staring at North Korea,&#8221; in which he travels from Beijing to Dandong to&#8230;be incredibly disappointed by his high expectations. The DMZ, DPRK side There are few things terribly wrong with this article (if I should even call it that): First, he has the worst three-picture slide show ever, which fails not only to depict the stark differences between China/the outside world and DPRK, but fails to actually show anything (photos include a train departure schedule, a foggy photo of irrelevant geography across the Yalu River, and a Chinese Tesco supermarket). And he had three days to come up with those photos? Second, he fears oversleeping on the train and waking up in Pyongyang, the epicenter of &#8220;world&#8217;s most brutal regime—and with no former U.S. president to come rescue me.&#8221; Perhaps brutal for native citizens, but would the government even dare to pull a hair off your head without incredible international repercussions? Third, he talks about how local Korean food isn&#8217;t as tasty as Korean food in Seoul or Los Angeles. Granted it even was an &#8220;authentic&#8221; North Korean restaurant [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You shouldn&#8217;t do it like Ethan Epstein, who I can only hope is not a regular contributor to Slate. He wrote &#8220;<a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2269090/entry/2269769/">Staring at North Korea</a>,&#8221; in which he travels from Beijing to Dandong to&#8230;be incredibly disappointed by his high expectations.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/quelquefois/4357111701/in/set-72157622325086823/"><img class="aligncenter" title="DMZ" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2743/4357111701_216bb6ff30.jpg" alt="" width="500" height="333" /></a>The DMZ, DPRK side</p>
<p>There are few things terribly wrong with this article (if I should even call it that):</p>
<p>First, he has the worst <a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2269090/slideshow/2269167/entry/2269028/">three-picture slide show</a> ever, which fails not only to depict the stark differences between China/the outside world and DPRK, but fails to actually show <em>anything</em> (photos include a train departure schedule, a foggy photo of irrelevant geography across the Yalu River, and a Chinese Tesco supermarket). And he had three days to come up with those photos?</p>
<p>Second, he fears oversleeping on the train and waking up in Pyongyang, the epicenter of &#8220;world&#8217;s most brutal regime—and with no former U.S. president to come rescue me.&#8221; Perhaps brutal for native citizens, but would the government even dare to pull a hair off your head without incredible international repercussions?</p>
<p>Third, he talks about how local Korean food isn&#8217;t as tasty as Korean food in Seoul or Los Angeles. Granted it even was an &#8220;authentic&#8221; North Korean restaurant perhaps their tastes have been altered by the inherent lack of efficient and sustainable agricultural practices over the last few decades. It could also be attributed to, like he mentions himself repeatedly in the post, Chinese people. They could have run the restaurants he dined at (hence: different tastes). Or it is also just as likely he just went to the wrong restaurant.</p>
<p>Fourth, he noticed a dearth of Koreans and Hangul/Chosongul being spoken around him. I don&#8217;t need to spell this one out but it&#8217;s not someone&#8217;s instinct to speak to someone in Korean when you&#8217;re white in an East Asian country.</p>
<p>Ultimately, I may be biased since I&#8217;ve both gone to Dandong, done the whole marvel-at-the-darkness-across-the-border-at-night thing, and gone to North Korea. While I do commend him for writing his experiences and sharing them with the wider community, he should have done a little more research if he wanted to publish on something other than his personal blog. I have learned not to extrapolate my personal experiences with the country and apply them to how North Koreans perceive themselves or perceive others. There is still much to learn.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/quelquefois/4357111889/in/set-72157622325086823/"><br />
<img class="aligncenter" title="School Boy" src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4038/4357111889_278851f533.jpg" alt="" width="333" height="500" /></a>A schoolboy at the Pyongyang Children&#8217;s Palace</p>
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		<title>Cultural Colonialism?</title>
		<link>http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2009/05/10/cultural-colonialism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 10 May 2009 15:13:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday, the WSJ posted an article called &#8220;An Expat&#8217;s Exotica.&#8221; It basically contends that expat havens such as Beijing and Shanghai are no longer considered &#8220;exotic&#8221; by Western standards because so many Westerners now live there and because these cities can now accommodate the familiar Western lifestyle. The author exalts those who veer off the beaten path, living in exotic places such as Changsha, Hunan or Wuhan, Hubei. He highlights a woman named Janie Corum, who is &#8220;pioneering the vast region for American businesses, striving to create a more comfortable environment (emphasis added),&#8221; paving the way for Westerners to discover China&#8217;s &#8220;remote corners.&#8221; This is the most ridiculous piece of journalism I have encountered in a while. That people still label countries (or parts of countries) as &#8220;exotic&#8221; is beyond me. Granted, much of Asia is still a mystery to many Westerners, but that is no excuse to call a culture exotic.* If anything, it a) just proliferates the need among Westerners to &#8220;understand&#8221; a supposedly mysterious and remote culture by infiltrating or dominating a foreign civilization (a la imperialism, colonialism), and b) perpetuates the notion of &#8220;Orientalism,&#8221; a European concept invented to label Asia as a place of exoticism, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yesterday, the WSJ posted an article called &#8220;<a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124175418754600003.html#mod%3Drss_The_Expat_Life%26articleTabs%3Darticle">An Expat&#8217;s Exotica</a>.&#8221; It basically contends that expat havens such as Beijing and Shanghai are no longer considered &#8220;exotic&#8221; by Western standards because so many Westerners now live there and because these cities can now accommodate the familiar Western lifestyle. The author exalts those who veer off the beaten path, living in <em>exotic</em> places such as Changsha, Hunan or Wuhan, Hubei. He highlights a woman named Janie Corum, who is &#8220;<em>pioneering</em> the vast region for American businesses, striving to create a more <em>comfortable</em> environment (emphasis added),&#8221; paving the way for Westerners to discover China&#8217;s &#8220;remote corners.&#8221;</p>
<p>This is the most ridiculous piece of journalism I have encountered in a while. That people still label countries (or parts of countries) as &#8220;exotic&#8221; is beyond me. Granted, much of Asia is still a mystery to many Westerners, but that is no excuse to call a culture exotic.* If anything, it a) just proliferates the need among Westerners to &#8220;understand&#8221; a supposedly mysterious and remote culture by infiltrating or dominating a foreign civilization (a la imperialism, colonialism), and b) perpetuates the notion of &#8220;Orientalism,&#8221; a European concept invented to label Asia as a place of exoticism, romance, and ancient mystique (see, for example, Edward Said&#8217;s <em>Orientalism</em>).</p>
<p>While there is a need to understand different cultures, and while a great way to understanding those cultures is to immerse yourself within it, it is not acceptable to frame those cultures as &#8220;the other,&#8221; something so profoundly new and in contrast to ordinary Western customs. The colonialistic/taming-the-exotic-for-the-West actions that follow this mindset that this article suggests we (as Westerners) do should not be spread, but countered.</p>
<p>Any thoughts, comments, critiques, counter-arguments welcome.</p>
<p>*I admit, Chinese people also exotify Westerners to some extent. To many Chinese, they are all blonde-haired, blue-eyed moneyed beauties. However, in my experience I have yet to encounter a Chinese person who has wanted to explore the free West and debunk their mysterious, rich, contemporary lifestyle.</p>
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		<title>A Failed Outlook</title>
		<link>http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2009/04/30/a-failed-outlook/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2009 05:41:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I really don&#8217;t know where some of my ideas come from. For example, in order to keep from growing a resistance to medicine&#8217;s effectiveness and subjecting my body to unnatural chemicals, I have adopted the take-if-you-really-need-it approach to medicine. It&#8217;s as if my taking a few days or weeks of medicine will change human DNA for generations to come. But seriously, it&#8217;s not a bad idea, right? But recently, I have found that bad things (be it sickness, bruises, or men) don&#8217;t go away by themselves. I thought I could trust my body or time to heal blemishes and wounds, but I was wrong. I. Sickness Last winter in Harbin, I made my third trip to one hospital (fourth trip overall) after the doctor made me take a CAT scan and a breathing test. I was suffering from breathing problems. She told me that I needed to spend at least one week living in the hospital to get medicine administered via IV for my sickness. Excuse me, what? Are you just trying to milk me for my money? I refused to pay exuberant amounts of money for something that can be solved without needles. Upon arriving in Beijing, I saw [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really don&#8217;t know where some of my ideas come from. For example, in order to keep from growing a resistance to medicine&#8217;s effectiveness and subjecting my body to unnatural chemicals, I have adopted the take-if-you-really-need-it approach to medicine. It&#8217;s as if my taking a few days or weeks of medicine will change human DNA for generations to come. But seriously, it&#8217;s not a bad idea, right?</p>
<p>But recently, I have found that bad things (be it sickness, bruises, or men) don&#8217;t go away by themselves. I thought I could trust my body or time to heal blemishes and wounds, but I was wrong.</p>
<p>I. Sickness<br />
Last winter in Harbin, I made my third trip to one hospital (fourth trip overall) after the doctor made me take a CAT scan and a breathing test. I was <a href="http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2008/11/02/im-not-dying/">suffering from breathing problems</a>. She told me that I needed to spend at least one week living in the hospital to get medicine administered via IV for my sickness. <em>Excuse me, what?</em> Are you just trying to milk me for my money? I refused to pay exuberant amounts of money for something that can be solved with<em>out</em> needles.</p>
<p>Upon arriving in Beijing, I saw a special Ears, Nose, and Throat doctor at a private hospital. He reviewed the x-rays, CAT scans, and breathing tests from Harbin and said, simply, &#8220;You have bronchitis and sinusitis.&#8221; Was it really that easy? How come my disease was a complete mystery in Harbin? Then, upon taking three weeks of antibiotic prescriptions and starting antihistamines on a daily basis, I was almost back to normal.</p>
<p>II. Bruises<br />
In November, I went snowboarding and, not realizing that snow in China (did I say snow? I meant ice) is nothing like the snow at Lake Tahoe, bruised my knees pretty badly. In fact, in retrospect I&#8217;m pretty sure that I had ruptured a blood vessel. I left it alone and hoped that, like all bruises, it would improve with time. However, last week, there had been no noticeable improvement in my legs. In fact, the bruise had spread to other parts of my leg.</p>
<p>In December, I went to a special doctor that deals with fracture wounds. They deemed nothing wrong with me, warned me to be more careful, and stuck a smelly herbal compound they created on my knee, told me to keep it on for five days, and that was that. The bruise faded, and the swelling subsided.</p>
<p>III. Men<br />
Men (and women) also don&#8217;t go away without medicine. Sometimes that medicine is &#8220;ignore&#8221; or truth (e.g., &#8220;No, I do not want to be your girlfriend.&#8221;).</p>
<p>So, I have learned that medicine&#8211;be it a [smelly] homemade Chinese herbal remedy or a dose of truth&#8211;can do lengths, and there are certain circumstances when they are welcome saviors to dire situations.</p>
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		<title>Dear Chinese People,</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Mar 2009 17:00:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Please do not lean against and touch pieces of artwork in museums. Seriously? Come on. Do you have any respect? Would you want to spend months/years on a report and then have some person piss all over it? Yeah, that&#8217;s what it&#8217;s like. The culprits Sincerely, Girl who would kick your ass if you touched her artwork]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Please do not lean against and touch pieces of artwork in museums. Seriously? Come on. Do you have any respect? Would you want to spend months/years on a report and then have some person piss all over it? Yeah, that&#8217;s what it&#8217;s like.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-339" title="The Culprits" src="http://quelquefois.net/toujours/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/picture-12.png" alt="" width="347" height="457" /><br />
The culprits</p>
<p>Sincerely,<br />
Girl who would kick your ass if you touched her artwork</p>
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		<title>Please Vote</title>
		<link>http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2008/11/04/please-vote/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Nov 2008 17:50:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Exercise your right. Vote today.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Exercise your right. Vote today.</p>
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		<title>Only in China</title>
		<link>http://quelquefois.net/toujours/2008/09/23/only-in-china/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:24:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Usually in the States, when the stoplight is broken, cars stop at the intersection as if there was a stop sign. Not in China. If anything, it roughly translates into, &#8220;There&#8217;s no traffic signal denoting cross-traffic and pedestrian crossings, so speed up!&#8221; When you try to cross (even when there is a crosswalk), it&#8217;s as though you are in their way. They honk and flash their high beams as they zoom past. Would any of them dare to actually hit us?  To test this theory out, a few friends and I attempted to cross. Crossing Running for your life as buses and aggressive taxis speed toward you is not advised.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Usually in the States, when the stoplight is broken, cars stop at the intersection as if there was a stop sign. Not in China. If anything, it roughly translates into, &#8220;There&#8217;s no traffic signal denoting cross-traffic and pedestrian crossings, so speed up!&#8221; When you try to cross (even when there is a crosswalk), it&#8217;s as though <em>you</em> are in <em>their</em> way. They honk and flash their high beams as they zoom past. Would any of them dare to actually hit us?  To test this theory out, a few friends and I attempted to cross. <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">Crossing</span> Running for your life as buses and aggressive taxis speed toward you is not advised.</p>
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